Is there such a thing as a “perfect divorce”?

Going through a separation and then a divorce is one of the most stressful and emotionally difficult events in an individual’s life. Therefore, can a couple realistically have the “perfect divorce?”

The most likely answer is “probably not,” but it is possible to have a healthy breakup and an amicable divorce. This is especially important when children are involved in the creation of a new, two-family home. However, first it is necessary to allow time to process and deal with all of the emotions that come with separating and divorcing: loss, anger, sadness, hurt, and fear of what the future will bring.

If you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse can have emotional closure, then you can work towards “re-creating” the family unit. But that’s going to take time and clear communication, as well as mutual respect and consideration. Always keep in mind that the ultimate goal is for your children to continue to feel that they are part of a family and will still have the love and support of both parents.

Yes, you can be friends with your former spouse

While it may not be possible to have the perfect divorce, it is certainly possible for the two of you to remain friends after all of the dust settles. There are some steps that can be taken during divorce proceedings that will help protect your kids, and create a healthy future for all:

• Talk with friends and family or reach out to a therapist in order to get the support necessary;
• Create a solid co-parenting plan;
• Adapt communication skills that prevent or alleviate conflict;
• Maintain a willingness to compromise.

It’s important to realize that even though your marriage is ending, both you and your spouse will want to remain very involved in the lives of your children; having an amicable divorce is the first step toward making this a reality.

At Green Giraffe Legal Services we are dedicated to the emotional well-being of your entire family, which is why we encourage amicable solutions as you navigate the divorce process.

We provide a wide range of legal services from preparing divorce paperwork to mediation, flat fee divorce options, attorney consultations, and more.

Working through divorce together

The perfect divorce may not exist, especially if children are involved in the process. However, divorce doesn’t have to be a battle. Divorce mediation is often a good alternative, and it gives you more control over the decisions and the final outcome of the negotiations.

You and your spouse may be considering a DIY divorce as an option to save money on legal costs. If so, beware of some of the reasons to avoid DIY divorce.