Signs you got married too fast

When you think of reasons for getting a divorce what comes to mind? Most likely money problems, lack of communication, adultery, or addiction top the list. However, for many couples getting married too young is a major issue.

In fact, according to a study published in Couple and Family Psychology, 45% of respondents said marrying at a young age was a contributing factor in their divorce.

There are many reasons why young love and marriage don’t work out. Some couples are blinded by falling in love or the idea of being in love until reality sinks in. For others, it’s a strong feeling and physical attraction or the rush of being in a new relationship.

Nevertheless, a hasty marriage might mean you haven’t taken the time to fully get to know your spouse-to-be. This could cause problems later as you discover more about each other’s lives. If you married young and now wonder if you moved quickly, read on for some signs you got married too fast.

What to watch for

Tying the knot too quickly, without taking the time to understand your partner, their values, and compatibility with you, can potentially lead to certain challenges. But what are some common signs you got married too fast?

• You felt pressure from family, friends, your religion, or society.
• You thought marriage was a way to fix personal and/or relationship problems.
• You did not live together before the marriage.
• Neither you nor your spouse had a clear picture of who you are, your own needs, goals, and issues.
• Neither of you discussed important issues such as having children, financial goals, careers, or retirement.
• You had unrealistic expectations of your spouse.
• You do not share anything in common or are incompatible.
• You cannot work as a team or compromise.

Making changes

Every relationship is unique. Whether or not a marriage lasts depends on the individuals, their maturity levels, their commitment to making the relationship work, their ability to communicate effectively, and the support they have around them.

However, if you got married too soon or too fast, and your relationship isn’t working, it’s important to know when to get divorced. If you’re considering getting a divorce, Green Giraffe Legal Services can help. We offer unbundled divorce services and pay-as-you-go options, giving you more control over the cost of your legal services.

When money is an issue, it’s comforting to know there are alternatives between handling everything alone and having an attorney handle your entire case.