Preparing a parenting plan for mediation

Divorce is complicated even when the only parties involved are the two spouses. Add children into the mix and you have a much more tangled situation. Parents often disagree on how to raise children even when they’re not divorced. So, when negotiating shared custody it can be difficult to agree on how your kids should be living in your absence. That’s why we recommend preparing a parenting plan for mediation.

Whether you are expecting an amicable divorce or not, a parenting plan can help ensure that your ex continues to raise your children in an agreed upon manner. Having a plan as you are preparing for mediation allows you to put all your ideas into clear, concise language. If you improvise a plan during the mediation meeting, you may leave out crucial requests or risk your mediator and ex misinterpreting your wishes. Here’s how to effectively craft a parenting plan for your upcoming mediation.

Details matter

When creating a parenting plan, you’ll want to include comprehensive details and specifications regarding what your wishes are for co-parenting after your divorce. A parenting plan can cover custody details such as schedule, transition plans between homes, plans for holidays and vacations, and communication between parents and children. Understand that your spouse may not agree with your thoughts, so be prepared to identify areas where you are willing to compromise. Furthermore, if you have preferences for medical care or the religious or educational environment your child will be raised in, these issues can be discussed during mediation.

The courts want both parents to have access to make pertinent decisions regarding their children and to be present to raise them. It is often difficult for the primary caretaker of the children during the marriage to relinquish control so be patient. Consider a parenting plan that addresses how to transition to a more equal co-parenting situation. Having your preferences clearly established beforehand will make the mediation process easier for all parties involved. Just remember change is inevitable and compromise is key.

All of your questions answered

Going through divorce proceedings that involve child custody designations can be stressful for you, the other parent, and your children. Keep in mind the goal is to put the child first and allow them time with both parents. Put aside your hurt feelings toward your spouse and try to focus on truly crafting a parenting plan that is in the best interest of the children. Handling child custody issues in mediation rather than through the courts gives parents much more control over the outcome. With a parenting plan in hand during mediation, you have the chance to create a flexible plan that fits your family’s needs as you reorganize your lives.

Not sure where to begin with mediation? Green Giraffe Legal provides hands-on help with your divorce through family law mediation, flat fee divorce options, and other family legal services. Schedule a free consultation today to discuss your situation and create a plan to move forward.